Welcome to the first post in the Wedding Tip Wednesdays series!
Weddings are can be expensive. REALLY expensive. From venue hire, to dress purchases and shoes and makeup, to guest lists and invitations, to an entourage of cars and hundreds of other possible extras… it can easily add up to costing thousands of dollars and push you so far into debt that you’ll barely see your way out.
It’s an unfortunate reality that the wedding industry is notorious for often being over-priced, with vendors tripling any costs whenever the W word is thrown into the mix.
It doesn’t have to be that way!
It’s all in your hands…
Read on to discover why it’s totally worth sticking to a budget, and that it’s not something to worry about or be ashamed of doing! Also, stay tuned for a later episode of the Wedding Tip Wednesday series where I’ll share my top ways of saving money during wedding preparation.
Frivolous vs. frugal
I’m not suggesting that you need to be ultra-frugal and obsessively scrape for every saving possible or give up everything you ever dreamed your big day to involve, because yes it’s true that it’s a “once in a lifetime” experience and you and your partner both deserve a beautiful ceremony and celebration. It’s preferable though to lean more towards the prudent end of the spectrum, rather than falling into the temptations of frivolity.
Personally, I find that huge flashy weddings can come across as being way over the top. The focus can quickly shift to “oh those chandeliers must have cost a fortune!” and “I wonder how they afforded those 8 Rolls Royces!” and people become fascinated by the materialism of the event, rather than on the couple getting married.
This is your day, girl! People’s eyes should be on you and your hubby, not gawking over the choice of venue or the elaborate crystal glasses. Go for the style/theme you dreamed of, and shop around to find affordable options. Even better, get some girlfriends together for some DIY. Don’t feel any pressure whatsoever to pour excessive amounts of money into anything – do your best to stick to a reasonable budget!
No need to add extra stress
Spending a lot of money necessarily means that there’s much more at stake if something falls through. Expectations are set higher, you’re more financially invested, and this can definitely add up to extra stress on your already busy plate!
Realistically, guests aren’t going to fuss over the tiniest of details.
Make it meaningful. Make it special. Make it the most magical day of your life.
But don’t get overly caught up in the little things.
An example I like to give people from my personal experience is the menu cards that are generally put on all the tables at the reception. It was one of the things that I had left until the last minute because I thought I’d make them myself rather than ordering a set (because the ones I had looked at and liked were rather pricey). But over the final few weeks before the wedding I got caught up with other things and ended up forgetting about them completely, with absolutely no criticism or comments from anyone in the aftermath! (Was I the only one who realised..?) Ended up being an easy, albeit inadvertent, saving.
Moral of the story is that it’s not worth stressing or fussing over every single little detail and making things into a big drama if something goes wrong, because I can guarantee you that people aren’t going to go home afterwards complaining about your choice of font for their place card.
If in doubt, just remember:
Remember the other costs
If you’re spending loads of money, chances are you’re trying to make the event super extravagant. Sure, maybe that’s your style, but just consider what else you could possibly be putting some of that money towards instead.
Personally, I found that there was plenty to save up for after the wedding! The biggest upcoming expenses included:
- Honeymoon (feel free to splurge a little on this one!)
- Buying a home / post-wedding living arrangements
- Buying things for the house
You definitely don’t want to kick off married life deep in wedding debt!
Don’t lose focus on what the day is really about
Realistically, after many months of preparation, your wedding day will probably be 12-18 hours of amazingly wonderful craziness – getting ready, the wedding ceremony, the reception and after party.
You’ll barely notice the extra bit of glitter you insisted on placing around the centrepieces, or the style of tying the ribbons at the back of the chairs, or the meticulously placed petals strewn across the cake table.
Believe me when I say that you’ll be totally in love with your fiance, trying to savour every second with them and your family and friends who are there to celebrate with you.
In fact, it’ll fly by so quickly and before you know it you’ll be leaving the reception venue with your husband ready to face the world together as a married couple.
There are heaps of things that need to be organised during the wedding prep process, but not all should warrant significant spending or focus. Really think about and prioritise what matters most to you. How? Take the time to sit down somewhere quietly and write (from the heart) a list of what your wedding day means to you. Every person will probably end up with different lists, with different priorities.
But here’s my advice.
Don’t make it about the money.
Don’t make it about trying to impress your friends, distant relatives or people on social media.
Make it about you and your partner – uniting as one through marriage on this joyous occasion.
As long as you’re happy and your spouse is happy, that’s all that really matters.
(Of course hopefully your guests have a fantastic time too!)
If you, a family member or a friend is in the midst of wedding organising at the moment – best wishes and good luck in this wonderful time! I’d love to hear about how things are going And if you have any questions, feel free to reach out or subscribe to more wedding updates below! ↓